Understanding the Feelings of Others isn’t Always Realistic


Andrew Petlev

Andrew Petlev

Andrew Petlev, Editor

Too many times has someone fabricated an “I get it” or “I feel bad for you”. It’s not their fault; human beings aren’t necessarily capable of feeling truly bad for another person without being in their situation.


I’m aware this is a confusing topic; me writing this isn’t me being a mean person. Our minds are wired to care about ourselves: when we hear about a tragic event on the news, our minds spring into action; we start to worry about ourselves, not the people involved in the event. It may sadden us or make us wish it never happened; we do not, and  often cannot, truly put ourselves in the position of another to understand the feeling of losing someone or feeling truly bad.


When someone says they are out sick with the flu, you know they must feel bad, but you aren’t left feeling bad for very long. You may have a great day, all while knowing they are not.


In short, everyone has problems. Your problems plus the problems of others are often too much to handle.


Guilt is one of the most common responses to other people’s trauma. Sometimes, Americans feel guilty for living a low-risk life while others are in the military, fighting for their country. What they do not realize is both lives are meaningful. We should not be fatigued by someone else’s grievance. Simply stop for a moment and be glad about your own life.


It is crucial you are able to relish memories without making yourself sick over the tragedies others have to face.


A quick Google search of “compassion fatigue” (what should be avoided) will provide more knowledge about this topic.