Boundaries are limits or rules we set with people. Boundaries can be set with family, friends, romantic relationships, classmates, yourself, or strangers. 

Boundaries are important because it creates clear rules of how you’d like to be treated. It lets others know what is and isn’t acceptable in your book. Boundaries prevent you from being used, drained, stressed, or manipulated by others. Boundaries boost self-esteem, gain a greater sense of identity, and bring focus to yourself and your well-being. 

Types of Boundaries

Physical boundaries refer to your personal space, privacy, and body. An example of a physical boundary could be, “Please don’t touch me.” 

Emotional boundaries refer to your feelings. An example of an emotional boundary is communicating discomfort. 

Intellectual boundaries refer to your thoughts and beliefs. An example of an intellectual boundary could be, “I can respect that we have different opinions on this.”

Financial boundaries refer to money, obviously. An example of a financial boundary could be setting a budget and sticking to it. 

How to Set Boundaries 

1. Self-Reflect- know your boundaries and why you choose to set them before you take action.
2. Setting Boundaries- state your boundary in terms of what you’d want, rather than what you don’t want
3. Be Straightforward- no need to overcomplicate it!
4. Accept Any Discomfort- setting boundaries is learning about getting comfortable with the uncomfortable, small steps to becoming a better version of yourself.